Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 17-04-2014
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Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 17-04-2014
Tags: Counseling, quote, santa clarita
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 16-04-2014
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Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology: An Integrative Handbook of the Mind (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
The central concepts of the theory of interpersonal neurobiology.
Many fields have explored the nature of mental life from psychology to psychiatry, literature to linguistics. Yet no common “framework” where each of these important perspectives can be honored and integrated with one another has been created in which a person seeking their collective wisdom can find answers to some basic questions, such as, What is the purpose of life? Why are we here? How do we know things, how are we conscious of ourselves? What is the mind? What makes a mind healthy or unwell? And, perhaps most importantly: What is the connection among the mind, the brain, and our relationships with one another?
Our mental lives are profoundly relational. The interactions we have with one another shape our mental world. Yet as any neuroscientist will tell you, the mind is shaped by the firing patterns in the brain. And so how can we reconcile this tension—that the mind is both embodied and relational? Interpersonal Neurobiology is a way of thinking across this apparent conceptual divide.
This Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology is designed to aid in your personal and professional application of the interpersonal neurobiology approach to developing a healthy mind, an integrated brain, and empathic relationships. It is also designed to assist you in seeing the intricate foundations of interpersonal neurobiology as you read other books.
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 16-04-2014
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Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 16-04-2014
Tags: Albert Einstein, Counseling, quote, santa clarita
“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” ― Albert Einstein
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 15-04-2014
Tags: books, Counseling, santa clarita, trauma
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences
Waking the Tiger offers a new and hopeful vision of trauma. It views the human animal as a unique being, endowed with an instinctual capacity. It asks and answers an intriguing question: why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed.
Waking the Tiger normalizes the symptoms of trauma and the steps needed to heal them. People are often traumatized by seemingly ordinary experiences. The reader is taken on a guided tour of the subtle, yet powerful impulses that govern our responses to overwhelming life events. To do this, it employs a series of exercises that help us focus on bodily sensations. Through heightened awareness of these sensations trauma can be healed.
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Community Events | Posted on 15-04-2014
Tags: Counseling, events, santa clarita
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Community Events | Posted on 15-04-2014
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Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Workshops | Posted on 15-04-2014
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Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Workshops | Posted on 15-04-2014
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Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Workshops | Posted on 15-04-2014
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Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Workshops | Posted on 15-04-2014
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Workshop Presented By Suzanne Holmes LMFT
March 2012
Cultivating Calm: Stress Management & Reduction
Pierce College
6201 Winnetka Ave.
Los Angeles, CA 91371
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Workshops | Posted on 15-04-2014
Tags: bullying, Counseling, Parenting, santa clarita
Workshop Presented By Suzanne Holmes LMFT
November 5, 2011
Bullying: What Parents Need to Know
Learn effective strategies to empower students to manage and overcome painful incidents of teasing, bullying and relational aggression.
Ivy Academia Entrepreneurial Charter School
6051 De Soto Ave.
Woodland Hills, CA 91367
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 15-04-2014
Tags: Believe, Counseling, Pema Chodron, quote, santa clarita
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 14-04-2014
Tags: amazing, Counseling, disability, santa clarita, unbelievable
You can do anything!
Check out the Movie – Wampler’s Ascent.
“The whole adventure was, was just unbelievable.”
— “Make your disability irrelevant.”
– Stephen J. Wampler, born with cerebral palsy and usually wheelchair-bound, became the first person with his disability to reach the top of El Capitan in Yosemite National Park
http://www.wamplerfoundation.org/
Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Articles | Posted on 13-04-2014
Tags: Anger, Counseling, destructive emotions, emotions, Fear, feelings, gifts, Sadness, santa clarita
By Suzanne Holmes, M. A., LMFT
Feelings are messages, but what are they telling us? How can we step back and explore the meanings hidden within the challenging emotions of anger, sadness and fear? If we are able to be curious when our bodies are experiencing the physical sensations that accompany difficult emotions, we can find the gifts in the midst of chaos and avoid personal or relational destruction.
All emotions have a range from mild to extreme. It is best to process or talk about what one is feeling as the emotions are felt with a trusted friend, family member or professional and not internalize or self-sabotage. Suffering with these destructive emotions can result in mental distress, a longing for something to be different, or even physical pain. Stress, tension, and physical ailments are products of continued suffering. If we are able to externalize or let out these destructive emotions, we feel more harmonious, congruent and happy with our self and in our relationships.
Let’s start with Anger. This emotion can equal resentment, irritation and frustration. Anger is present when a need is not being met. If we look at anger as the tip of the iceberg, what is hidden under the surface? Is it unresolved grief, loss or resentment? Anger is like a big stop sign. Your body is trying to give you clues that something is not working. If we are able to look at the positive side of anger, we can find the gifts of assertiveness, strength and energy.
Sadness is the emotional pain of loss that makes us feel lonely, full of self-pity, despairing and isolated. The feeling of sadness is normal and usually temporary. We are all in constant flux. If we can embrace the sad feelings, we can move through the adjustment and into a new beginning. The transition from one feeling into another can take time. Be patient and kind to yourself in where you are at in each moment. Ask for help, you might be surprised at the sadness that others have experienced, and be able to assist each other in the healing process. The gifts of sadness are growth, personal awareness and interdependence.
Lastly, let’s discuss the challenges of fear. Fear can paralyze us in our tracks, so we become frozen and numb. Fear is equal to feeling overwhelmed, apprehensive or threatened. In Become What You Are, philosopher and writer Alan Watts (1995) addressed this experience, “Life compels us at last to give in, to surrender to the full play of what is ordinarily called terror of the unknown, the suppressed feeling suddenly shoots upward as a fountain of the purest joy” (p. 8). Acceptance in the process of each challenging emotion lowers our defenses and helps us move into action or acceptance. In doing so, we can also acknowledge that all people face the future with a not knowing. In facing the unknown with approval and grace towards yourself, maybe each individual can grow internally and externally integrating the life lessons. The gifts of fear are protection and safety of self, preservation and wisdom.
If we are unable to meet the challenges of exploring destructive emotions in their beginnings, we experience the negative effects in a greater degree. In Counseling and Therapy Skills, educator and counselor David Martin (2000) stated, “One of our goals is an openness to all experiences—an openness that is necessary to live a full, complete life” (p. 57). In this openness, all things are possible: Hearts can mend and suffering can lessen.
Martin, D. (2000). Counseling and therapy skills. Prospect Heights, Il: Waveland Press.
Watts, A. (1995). Become what you are. Boston: Shambhala.