TRUST

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 02-10-2016

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BRAVING BOUNDARIES: You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no.

RELIABILITY: You do what you say you’ll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.

ACCOUNTABILITY: You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.

VAULT: You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.

INTEGRITY: You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.

NONJUDGMENT: I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.

GENEROSITY: You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.

Copyright © 2015 by Brené Brown, LLC

SADDER BUT WISER: WORKING WITH THE DEPRESSIVE PERSONALITY

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Workshops | Posted on 02-10-2016

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This seminar will explore the introjective defensive style of the depressive personality from a broadly psychodynamic perspective, and discuss constructive ways of approaching the depressive personality in therapy. The depressive is emotionally sensitive, self-critical, fearful of rejection, and often carries around an inordinate amount of inappropriate guilt and unmourned losses. Healthy depressives often make up for their own perceived failures by trying to heal others and doing good deeds; more disturbed depressives may descend into self-hatred, mood disorder, and even psychotic features.

September 10, 2016; Saturday
2:00 pm am-5:00 pm (3 CE credits)

THE NARCISSIST UNMASKED

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Community Events | Posted on 02-10-2016

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October 22, 2016
Saturday- 2:00 pm -5:00 pm
(3 CE credits)

27201 Tourney Rd #210
VALENCIA, CA 91355

It is not hard to understand how narcissist and those with traits of narcissistic personality disorder make their way into our lives. Often times they are the most interesting person in the crowd, exhibiting passion and confidence. We marry them, we accept jobs from them, we even admire them at first… but eventually we start to notice the true side of the narcissist. This seminar will explore: (a) ways to understand the narcissist, (b) the impact of narcissists on our lives and (c) strategies for dealing with narcissist in therapy and life.

http://www.aeoliancenter.org/events_Narcissist%20Valencia2016.html

Cultivating Calmness, March 11, 2015

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The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 22-02-2015

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The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Paperback – September 1, 2010
by Brene Brown

 

In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging, shares ten guideposts on the power of Wholehearted living—a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.

Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we’d no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, “What if I can’t keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn’t everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?”

In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough,” and to go to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.”

“This important book is about the lifelong journey from ‘What will people think?’ to ‘I am enough.’ Brown’s unique ability to blend original research with honest storytelling makes reading The Gifts of Imperfection like having a long, uplifting conversation with a very wise friend who offers compassion, wisdom, and great advice.”
—Harriet Lerner, New York Times best-selling author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Connection

Cultivating Calmness – March 11, 2015

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Community Events | Posted on 22-02-2015

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Cultivating Calmness:

Stress Management & Reduction Skills for Caregivers & Seniors

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 11 , 2015

6:30pm

at the Caregiver Resource Center 23340 Cinema Drive Suite 5, Santa Clarita

Excessive or adverse stress can create physical and mental strain, causing problems including irritability, muscle tension, sleeplessness, increased heart rate and high blood pressure. Come learn simple skills for stress reduction to improve health in yourself and those for whom you care.

LIMITED SEATING AVAILABLE

info@homecaresantaclarita.com (800) 808-4777

Pema Chödrön

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 21-01-2015

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Beloved Buddhist Teacher, Author,  Nun and Mother, Pema Chödrön has inspired millions of people from around the world who have been touched by her example and message of practicing peace in these turbulent times. The Pema Chödrön Foundation is dedicating to preserving and sharing Pema’s inspiration and teachings in order that they might help us all awaken wisdom and compassion in ourselves and the world around us.

David D. Burns MD

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 21-12-2014

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Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

David D. Burns MD

The good news is that anxiety, guilt, pessimism, procrastination, low self-esteem, and other “black holes” of depression can be cured without drugs. In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life. Now, in this updated edition, Dr. Burns adds an All-New Consumer′s Guide To Anti-depressant Drugs as well as a new introduction to help answer your questions about the many options available for treating depression.

– Recognise what causes your mood swings
– Nip negative feelings in the bud
– Deal with guilt
– Handle hostility and criticism
– Overcome addiction to love and approval
– Build self-esteem
– Feel good everyday

John Green

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 21-12-2014

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-John Green

Looking for Alaska

10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 12-11-2014

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10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story

By Dan Harris

Winner of the 2014 Living Now Book Award for Inspirational Memoir

Nightline anchor Dan Harris embarks on an unexpected, hilarious, and deeply skeptical odyssey through the strange worlds of spirituality and self-help, and discovers a way to get happier that is truly achievable.

After having a nationally televised panic attack on Good Morning America, Dan Harris knew he had to make some changes. A lifelong nonbeliever, he found himself on a bizarre adventure, involving a disgraced pastor, a mysterious self-help guru, and a gaggle of brain scientists. Eventually, Harris realized that the source of his problems was the very thing he always thought was his greatest asset: the incessant, insatiable voice in his head, which had both propelled him through the ranks of a hyper-competitive business and also led him to make the profoundly stupid decisions that provoked his on-air freak-out.

We all have a voice in our head. It’s what has us losing our temper unnecessarily, checking our email compulsively, eating when we’re not hungry, and fixating on the past and the future at the expense of the present. Most of us would assume we’re stuck with this voice – that there’s nothing we can do to rein it in – but Harris stumbled upon an effective way to do just that. It’s a far cry from the miracle cures peddled by the self-help swamis he met; instead, it’s something he always assumed to be either impossible or useless: meditation. After learning about research that suggests meditation can do everything from lower your blood pressure to essentially rewire your brain, Harris took a deep dive into the underreported world of CEOs, scientists, and even marines who are now using it for increased calm, focus, and happiness.

10% Happier takes readers on a ride from the outer reaches of neuroscience to the inner sanctum of network news to the bizarre fringes of America’s spiritual scene, and leaves them with a takeaway that could actually change their lives.

Raising UP Your Parents – Elder Care Workshop

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Community Events | Posted on 14-10-2014

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Raising UP Your Parents – Elder Care Workshop

“Raising UP Your Parents!” Presented by Susan B. Geffen You are cordially invited to Home Care Services Santa Clarita’s elder law event..

Free Elder Care workshop for adult children, spouses, and caregivers.

Presented by Home Care Services Santa Clarita.

Susan B. Geffen Masters in Gerontology, USC Elder Law Attorney Former Elder Law Professor Author of “Take That Nursing Home and Shove It!”

Susan will discuss: Options to pay for care Alzheimer’s and Dementia Medicare and Medi-Cal Assisted Living, Board and Care, Home Care Veterans’ Aid and Attendance Benefits Wills, Trusts, Advance Directives

Saturday, October 18 10a.m. – 1p.m.

Embassy Suites Valencia 28508 Westinghouse Pl. Santa Clarita, CA 91355

Reservations required: Call 1-800-301-1326 or visit www.susanbgeffen.com/events

Allow your Heart to Expand

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 18-09-2014

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Allow Your Heart to Expand

 

Eckhart Tolle

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 17-09-2014

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College & Career Fair 2014

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Community Events | Posted on 17-09-2014

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College & Career Fair

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

6;30pm to 9:00pm

Hyatt Regency

Valencia, CA

If you can Walk, You can Dance…

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 12-09-2014

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If ou can Walk, You can Dance

If you can Talk, You can Sing.

—–Tribal Saying Zimbabwe

Born for Love

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Recommended Reading | Posted on 12-09-2014

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Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential–and Endangered 
by Bruce D. Perry

 

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Born for Love is the definitive book on empathy. Renowned psychiatrist Bruce Perry has appeared on Oprah, CNN, National Public Radio’s All Things Considered, and other programs as an expert in this hot area of neuroscience, and has been cited as such in Newsweek, the New York Times, and The New Yorker (in a story written by Malcolm Gladwell). He and co-writer Maia Szalavitz explore empathy’s startling importance in human evolution and its significance for our children and our society. The authors of The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog present a powerful case that love is essential…and endangered.

Brene Brown

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 11-08-2014

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Brené Brown:

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

Brene Brown The power of vulnerability

TEDxHouston · 20:19 · Filmed Jun 2010

Subtitles available in 48 languages

View interactive transcript

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Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.

This talk was presented to a local audience at TEDxHouston, an independent event. TED editors featured it among our selections on the home page.

You had the Power all Along

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 01-08-2014

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You had the Power all along, My dear.

-Gilda, The Good Witch

Integrity

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 24-07-2014

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Intergrty

in·teg·ri·ty noun \in-ˈte-grə-tē\
: the quality of being honest and fair

: the state of being complete or whole

Full Definition of INTEGRITY

1
: firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptibility
2
: an unimpaired condition : soundness
3
: the quality or state of being complete or undivided : completeness

Walk Outside

Posted by Suzanne Holmes | Posted in Inspiration | Posted on 09-07-2014

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For one minute, walk outside, stand there,

in silence, and contemplate

how amazing life is.